How to Listen: Discover the Hidden Key to Better Communication

I highly recommend this book to everyone that I know, and it’s not a long read!

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲 𝗻 is a powerful guide to mastering the often-overlooked skill of listening. Oscar Trimboli’s focus on “deep listening” shifts the concept from just hearing words to truly understanding the speaker’s meaning and emotions. His insights show that listening isn’t a passive act; it’s an active, intentional process that strengthens relationships and builds trust.

The 125 / 400 / 900 rule is my favorite. He explains that people speak at about 125 words per minute, but our brains process up to 400 words per minute and can think at 900. This gap explains why we often lose focus; our minds wander, filling in the mental space. He suggests using this extra bandwidth to pick up on unspoken cues, tone, body language, and pauses which helps us grasp what’s truly being said.

Trimboli offers practical steps to use that mental gap wisely. He encourages us to embrace silence, ask clarifying questions, and listen for the “unsaid.” These small adjustments make listening more intentional and meaningful. How to Listen is an essential read for anyone who wants to connect on a deeper level in an age where genuine listening is increasingly rare.

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